Wednesday, April 25, 2012


The scene was comical. I could imagine it being included on the I Love Lucy show. Instead of Ricky and Lucy, my husband, Steve, and I were to be the stars of this episode! I was perched on top of our front-loading washer, head and arms dangling off the back of the machine, desperately trying to reach the owner’s manual that had fallen down in back of the unit. Only one problem, my arms just weren’t long enough to make the rescue.

One peek behind the washer, and I realized that the manual wasn’t the only thing that had vibrated off the top of the machine. Towels and hangers stared back at me from their newly discovered hiding place. Time to get serious. How could I retrieve these items without dislocating an arm or putting a permanent crick in my neck?

Steve to the rescue! He had gone to the garage and reappeared with some make-shift tools that should aid us with our project. With a long wooden stake in one hand, I managed to push the towels and hangers over to the gap between the washer and dryer. While I slowly and carefully lifted each item, Steve was able to slide a broom down on top of each of them, and working as a team, we successfully removed the manual, each towel, and hanger. Neither one of us would have been able to complete the rescue alone.

Such a simple, comical scene, reminded me of the beauty of God’s design for marriage. Husband and wife working together as a team, to bring more honor and glory to God than they could as individuals. We’re given a beautiful picture of God’s gift of marriage in the first book of the Bible: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Gen. 2:24, KJV). The marriage relationship is to be an accurate representation of Christ’s relationship with the church.

Love is so much more than an emotion. The Apostle Paul outlines a pretty comprehensive list of the characteristics of love in 1 Corinthians 13: suffers long, is kind, doesn’t envy, doesn’t boast, isn’t proud, isn’t rude, doesn’t seek its own way, isn’t easily provoked, thinks no evil, rejoices in the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes and endures all things, and never fails (4-8a). Now that is challenging!

If you take a look at the woman in Proverbs 31, it seems she has this ‘marriage thing’ down pat. In her book, Lies Women Believe, Nancy Leigh DeMoss communicates an amazing discovery about this woman, “One of the things that strikes me most about the ‘virtuous woman’ of Proverbs 31 is the fact that she is so utterly selfless. She is not seeking ‘self-fulfillment’; she isn’t interested in advancing ‘her career,’ having her own bank account, or being known for her personal accomplishments. To the contrary, she seems virtually unconcerned about her own interests and needs, choosing instead to focus on how she can meet the practical needs of her husband and children, as well as others in her community” (p. 144). Sounds like the kind of wife I want to be! And what an accurate representation of Christ’s relationship with the church. Through the power of His Holy Spirit, we’re able to live out this kind of love in our marriage relationship.

The word ‘submission’ has gotten a bad rap in our day, but we’re told to submit ourselves “one to another in the fear of God” (Eph. 5:21). My American Heritage Dictionary defines the word,’ submit’, as follows: “To yield or surrender (oneself) to the will or authority of another.” As wives, we’re privileged to submit ourselves to our husbands, as unto the Lord (Eph. 5:22). In reality, husbands have the more difficult task: “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Eph. 5:25). DeMoss debunks one of the enemy’s lies, “Satan has done a masterful job of convincing women that submission is a narrow, negative, and confining concept. He has taken a beautiful, holy, and powerful Truth and made it look ugly, frightening, and undesirable” (p. 146).

The truth is, when we submit to Christ and our mate, we position ourselves under our Lord’s protection and blessing. When both husband and wife are seeking God’s will and devoted to the needs of the other, they’ll be able to accomplish much for His honor and glory. Marriage requires teamwork. When we allow God to be the coach of our husband/wife team, we have everything we need to succeed!

Prayer: Heavenly Father, Thank You for the gift of marriage. Forgive me when I put myself first. Help me to be the teammate I need to be for my spouse. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Because of Him,

*Maria I. Morgan is an inspirational writer and speaker and is passionate about sharing the truths of God’s Word with today’s generation. She lives in sunny Georgia with her husband and daughter, two dogs and two cats. Visit her on the web and download a free copy of her eBook, God Speaking.  Connect with  her on Facebook and Twitter!


  1. Beautiful post, Maria - and I LOVE Nancy Leigh DeMoss's Lies Women Believe. Actually heard her speak last summer. GOOD stuff.

    1. Appreciate your sweet words of encouragement, Joanne! And oh, I'd love to hear Nancy speak! Her books deal with difficult topics but she speaks the truth in love. She has a gift for sharing God's Word. Have a blessed weekend, my friend!

  2. Amen, Maria! I find it a PRIVILEGE to submit to my husband also. (I love how you phrased that!) Also that husbands have the harder job - I hadn't thought about it that way before, but I agree. I got a sense of relief and peace thinking about God's role for me as a submissive, but equal, helpmeet.

    1. Hi Catrina! Our society has such a difficult time with submission - but God's design is for submission to protect and bless us. When I find myself buying into our cultures' thinking, I need to run to God's Word and refresh myself with the truth!

      What a blessing that you experienced relief and peace as you saw the role God has for you. Rejoice in Him! God bless!

  3. What a beautiful post - you really spoke words of wisdom to me today as I contemplate my own marriage. Thank you!

    1. Hi Sarah! I'm so thankful the Lord used this post to encourage you! Marriage is such a wonderful relationship - one that requires work and nurturing. Reminds me of a garden. It is designed to be beautiful, but each partner must be committed to doing some 'weeding.' Have a great weekend & God bless!

  4. As I read about your situation, I pictured the things hiding behind my washer AND my knight in shining armor who rescues me on a regular basis. He's definitely the stronger, more capable member of this team. Makes it easier to rely on and submit to him. Love your writing :)



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